Only recently did I fully realize the real value of social media, specifically online communication. I can’t remember how many times I’ve deleted an inappropriate or even sarcastic remark of mine before I posted it. And I’m really happy for that. As a rule of thumb I think twice before I respond, especially when I feel offended, but I always react spontaneously when I feel respect, admiration, or awe. There is a difference between what you think and what you actually say or do. A nasty word aimed at a person will stay with them forever, especially if it’s written down in ink, while your negative thought can ultimately be changed into a positive one and nobody will ever know you once had a grudge against that person. And thus there will be nothing to regret.
The online community I’m part of is so supportive and encouraging that it feels like a punch in the face when somebody is not as polite as the ones I’m used to interacting with. The power of virtual discourse is enormous. There is a danger that any utterance can be misinterpreted and a light sarcasm can change into a huge insult in the eyes of the reader. Thus I believe a person should be twice as nice as in a normal face-to-face communication to make sure they get the right message across.
I admit that my style of writing may sometimes appear confusing. The trouble is that while expressing my ideas, I love to use metaphors and figurative language in general; I like to alter and exaggerate the usual meaning of concepts. I do so because I hate to sound dogmatic and I believe there are as many truths as there are people, so by using figurative language I feel I give the reader some space for their own interpretation. Yes, my writing may lack clarity sometimes but by no means do I want to confuse the reader. And I don’t mind if their truth turns out to be different from mine. But I’ve come to realize this can turn against me, the writer; people who do not want to understand will misuse the little space I’ve innocently provided. Those people listen to respond and win a point, not to understand what I have to say. And sometimes they will even blame me for their inability to understand. I’m aware of the fact that the literal interpretation of figurative language may not make sense at first sight but it’s up to the reader to make an effort to understand, in case they truly wish to engage in genuine communication.
People hurt others in many different ways; some use a cane, while others use words, maybe unwittingly. This is sad. On the other hand, a gap in understanding can be painful but it is a natural part of human interaction. And I believe that our task is to bridge this gap, not to deepen it.
I’m sorry if it sounds like a quiet sob of a spoiled girl. But I’m really grateful for this sudden insight because it will help me tremendously in my profession. Also, this is one of the messages I intend to pass on as a teacher …. Thanks for being here and listening.